Just like the coin which is two sided eg head or tail, the hand is also '2 sided'. What are the differences between the two? One is a living thing while the other is not (if i may say). No matter how you throw the coin, it will never feel the pain but the hand is different. One will feel the pain no matter which part you hit it (eg palm), both are also fresh and blood.
Lately i have been using this example of the 'hand' to a dear & close friend, and many times too.
Reckon it to be zero sum gain. It will not be a win win situation. There is a trade off.
What is right may be wrong and what's wrong may be right. Perhaps one will never find out the answer as we can't do two things at the same time.
It's always painful to give up something we love and yearn but it may caused more hurt and harm if we don't give them up. There is this saying, "on one hand ..........while on the other hand ........"
Have to and must give up someone i treasure lately which i believe is a right thing to do no matter how sad, painful, tough......... is it. Now it leaves time to heal the wound and pray to GOD for HIS ever great mercy, wisdom and grace.
I keep thinking, how come things never have a good ending. Have i done too little? Have i done wrong? Is this GOD"s will?
Should i follow the heart or mind?
Guess, there will NEVER be an answer except from the LORD
I have been telling my dear friend, no matter which side of the hand is hit, it will be painful, just that the extend of it (pain) is different.
Maybe in years to come, while looking back, one will 'know' the sacrifice been made or done is worthty.
Meantime, will continue to pray to ask for direction from GOD